Life is a full Circle.

I guess we use this phrase,quite often to express our dissatisfaction from life.I too have done so many a times during moments of despair and frustration. For the majority of people this is more like a cliche.But there are a few who have been hit so hard by troughs of life that they kind of start identifying with this phrase. I heard the phrase from two such people yesterday. One a successful IIM grad ,well placed in corporate life,but pissed off with the rat race and another an old friend coming to terms with the agony of a break off. Though the later didn't use the exact phrase but she meant something very similar.

My heart goes out to both of them,especially the later one as I care for the immense talent and skills this lady has and all that is going to waste.I also feel sad for them because they are my friends.I don't write my posts with the expectation of someone reading it. I get pleasure in gathering my thoughts this way.But for a change i wish that the two concerned persons above should read this one and if at all i can make some difference to how they think.

Since both these morons are hell bent on the life being a circle. Let me talk about some circles in life. I believe to keep things simple and uncomplicated. For me life is all about two circles. One the Circle of Influence and another the Circle of Concern. These are the two concentric circles and with the circle of concern encapsulating the circle of influence. The circle of concern is the set of all problems ,dilemmas , challenges that we face in life.All the reasons of pain and despair resides here. On the other hand the circle of Influence deals with the sub set of all the above mentioned causes to which we can directly make an impact or issues on which we have our direct control.

I wish the people understand this that all of us will be better served if we try to ignore the existence of the circle of Concern and put all their effort to resolve all the issues that are there in our cirlce of Influence. Also i believe that in order to get things going in the circle of influence, we have to look forward to a fresh ,happy and healthy life without any baggages of past.

I am neither an atheist nor a great believer in religion,but i always believe that to be born as human beings is the greatest gift God has given to us and biggest homage paid to him would be to live the life he has given to the fullest.

Sometimes we stretch things beyond rationale and blame the almighty for all our miseries. If not that then we surrender infront of the challenges life and put up an excuse that may be this is what he wanted. Let me assure you , all of us are equal children of his. He has no role to play in neither our success nor failures. He has given us a level playing field and its upto us on how we charter our course ahead.

I would like to end with one incident that is quintessential of the essence of life that i am talking about. Arthur Ashe was in his death bed, and millions of countrymen used to pray for his well being.He used to receive thousands of mails everyday.

One such letter from a young girl said " Why of all did God had to choose you (suffer from Aids)". Below is Arthur Ashe's reply to this.( i am not sure of the figures he gave, i read this piece long time back)

There are arround 50000 people in USA.

Out of which 5000 are kids who play tennis.

Of which 500 play professional tennis.

Of which 50 play at a GrandSlam of which 4 reach the semi-final, 2 the final and

1 is the winner.

So when i was at the centre court holding the winners trophy in hand , i never asked God why me? So why should i ask now.